The Australian Dictionary of Invisible Culture for Teachers
when to respond more to ‘how are you’
norm: when it is like this, it is good to do some things (see more)
When someone I know very well says “How are you?” I don’t have to say “I’m well”. I can say many things.
If I don’t know this person very well, it can be bad if I say “I feel very bad”.
If I don’t know this person very well, it can be bad if I say “I feel very good”
"When Craig's mother asks Craig 'how are you?' Craig can say 'I feel very bad. Many bad things are happening to me.'"
"When Beth says to her friend Kelly 'how are you?' Kelly can say 'I feel very good. Something very good happened.'"
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